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Am I Dating a Narcissist?

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Here are some warning signs that a person you have met or are starting a relationship with may be a Narcissist.

He may blame every error of his, every inadequacy or mishap on others, or on the world at large.

He may be hypersensitive to ribbing and insults. He may treat children or animals with little care and respect.

He may be too eager to get more time together and create a fast and furious relationship.

He can immediately cast you in the role of the love of his life and press for exclusivity and instant intimacy. He may text or phone you incessantly, or need to know where you are at all times.

He may not respect your boundaries and privacy, or may ignore your wishes, or want to be included in everything you do.

He may tend to want to control the situation and you compulsively, eg insist you ride in his car, hold on to the car keys, the money, or the theatre tickets. He may disapprove if you are away for too long, and interrogate you when you return. He may insist on a certain way of dressing.

He may act in a patronizing and condescending manner and criticise you often. He may emphasise your smallest faults (devalues you) even as he exaggerates your talents, traits, and skills (idealises you).

He may be wildly unrealistic in his expectations from you, from himself, from the budding relationship, and from life in general.

He may tell you that you make him feel good. Next thing, he may tell you that you make him feel bad, or that you make him feel violent, or that you provoke him.

He adopts a physical posture which implies and exudes an air of superiority, seniority, hidden powers, mysteriousness or amused indifference.

He takes part in social interactions and banter condescendingly, from a position of superiority.

He may ask for special treatment of some kind. Not to wait his turn, to have a longer or a shorter therapeutic session, to talk directly to authority figures (and not to their assistants or secretaries), to be granted special payment terms, to enjoy custom tailored arrangements, and can
frequently and embarrassingly dress down service providers such as restaurant staff or cab drivers.

He flatters, adores, admires and applauds you in an embarrassingly exaggerated and profuse manner.

In general, he prefers show-off to substance and is shallow. He will not admit to ignorance or to errors in any field.

He may brag incessantly. His speech is peppered with I, my, myself, and mine. He describes himself as intelligent, or rich, or modest, or intuitive, or creative, but always excessively, implausibly, and extraordinarily so.

His past life may sound unusually rich and complex. His achievements often seem beyond his age and education. Yet, his actual condition is in reality incompatible with his claims. He name-drops and claims other people’s experiences and accomplishments as his own.

He likes to talk about himself and only about himself. He is not interested in others or what they have to say. He is never reciprocal. He acts disdainful, even angry, if he feels an intrusion on his precious time.

In general, he is very impatient, easily bored, with strong attention deficits, unless and until he is the topic of discussion.

If you ask him about his emotions, he will intellectualise, rationalise, or speak about himself in the third person and in a detached scientific tone.

He may become enraged when required to delve deeper into his motives, fears, hopes, wishes, and needs.

He is usually very serious about himself. He may possess a fabulous sense of humour, scathing and cynical, but rarely is he self-deprecating.

If you have found that you are already in a relationship with a Narcissist, and would like relationship counselling, or help in leaving a Narcissist, contact us at the Hart Centre Australia. We have over 50 Psychologists around Australia who have been educated in Narcissism and can knowledgably help you in dealing with your situation. We also offer Skype sessions for overseas clients or those you can’t attend one of our centres. Phone Australia 1300 830 553, or +617 55190004

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The Most Important factors to consider when purchasing office Furniture Sydney

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The furniture you use in your office will make a huge impression on your clients, a successful office turning your dreams into a reality. It is therefore important that you take many factors into consideration when purchasing your office furniture Sydney.

There are indeed a variety of ways that you can fit out your office these days and these include buying locally, taking advantage of office clearances and sales, and of course buying online. It is essential you know your budget and that you stick to it, but at the same time you need to make sure that your work space is inviting both to staff as well as clients and visitors.

The correct furniture, fixture and fittings can make the difference between a successful and professional running business and a failure, and when you will spend many gruelling hours in your office setting up shop, you will need to be comfortable in your surroundings. Your employees also need to have all the correct accessories and furniture to ensure that they work to their optimum; there really is no room here for scrimping and saving.

When shopping for your office furniture Sydney, firstly you will need to be clear in your mind as to what you will require; computer tables, filing cabinets and welcoming sofas and executive furniture are really a must these days. An office that does not provide an attractive and comfortable environment for its workers simply is not allowed these days; your employees have rights and they will not be afraid to make them known.

One feature of your office that you cannot compromise on within the office is your chairs. Whereas you may be able to disguise cheap shelves or tables, chairs need to be in good condition, of good quality, and provide the workers with a comfortable work station. Being correctly seated will allow the workers to be a lot more productive in their tasks even if they are not aware of this themselves.

It is therefore best to buy new chairs for your office furniture Sydney, and you can look for discount stores or even online when running to a strict budget. Desks on the other hand are a feature of your office that you can cut costs with; a practical desk that is solid with good storage space is advisable and for this you do not have to spend a fortune. Second hand desks and cubicles are often offered at a great price, and these are items that will last for years and will not really show wear and tear.

Storage and filing cabinets are also an essential part of any office; an untidy office with paperwork strewn everywhere will not only look uninviting to the client, but it will also slow down production time. All your essential office furniture Sydney needs can be dealt with by shopping in store or online; what is very important to realize in the outset though is budget furniture really is false economy as well as giving the wrong impression to important clients visiting.

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